How many of us are just acting our way through life, adapting to different settings like chameleons?
Situational elasticity lends its hand to the collaborative truth, that people inject each other with signaling serum. We try to demonstrate to others ‘this is who I am and this what I do.’
All life is a stage, not just the internet, with many reaping the psychological benefits of…
‘Negative visualisation generates a vastly more dependable calm’
Confronting the worst-case scenario saps it of much of its anxiety-inducing power. Happiness reached via positive thinking can be fleeting and brittle; negative visualisation generates a vastly more dependable calm. OLIVER BURKEMAN, THE ANTIDOTE: HAPPINESS FOR PEOPLE WHO CAN’T STAND POSITIVE THINKING
Whether you’re stuck in a labyrinth or looping around the same racetrack, admitting you’re frustrated and lost is at least a starting point. The hard part is developing a plan to do something about it.
If you want to go pro in any profession, you’re going to have to practice your beliefs and take calculated risks to gauge their rigidity. Doing the work removes the cobwebs of uncertainty.
Twitter’s removal of millions of fake accounts reminds us that not everything is what it seems. The internet is full of bots, replicating humans, even programmed to act more human than the humans themselves.
The psychological costs of living in your own head will almost surely eat away at you.
The same way a dog disappears for an half hour to chew on a bone, we too need an unbridled escape to break up the everydayness.
Reading books or listening to music help trigger a much-needed emotional release. So too does meditation and inebriation, the latter the most instant hack to detachment.
How we pivot…
To be in your own thoughts — language, like headphones, delivers a sense of privacy.
Of course, no thinking is linear. Neurons are always crashing into each other, trying to connect and build new avenues of ideas.
The whole of brain waves is greater than the sum of its parts.
But knowledge presents a key constraint in the gobbling…
Doing the dishes, sweeping the leaves, shooting free throws, organizing your records—repetitive tasks can also be mindful experiences.
There’s something about the fluidity of motion that jogs the brain into a presence on par with meditation.
You’d think that boredom would set in and condemn our brains to seek dopamine-hitting pleasures. But some of the most everyday activities, even…
Resolving a problem creates new challenges, not in the immediate front but in the long-term as we learn new things and the issues become more transparent.
This is why most people prefer to live in the comfort of the status quo. Why change a lifestyle that throws us off the pedestal of satisfaction?
Life is a mindset of either chasing growth or mediocrity, a liking for variables or a fancy…
We can make peace with the anxiety of antipication. But it’s the hope that kills. What we need to gauge the nerves is preparation.
One way of accomplishing this is through fear-setting, a practice which requires that we envision the worst outcome. By going toward the fear, we undermine its strength and power our resolve.
The counterintuitive nature of the fear-setting approach is why it…
If you read Susan Cain’s Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, you’d realize introversion is not a disease nor does it make poor leaders. The opposite is true. Introverts are often more sociable in intimate settings although they like to “recharge at parties,” with a preference on listening, thinking, and acting dutifully as well rather than squander people’s time…